Bullying

Today's subject is bullying.  It's been a "hot" subject lately.


A definition of bully is: A person who is habitually cruel or overbearing, especially to smaller or weaker people.  2. A hired ruffian; a thug.


Bullying by definition is: 1.To treat in an overbearing or intimidating manner. 2. To make (one's way) aggressively.


Other things that define being a bully or bullying:

• Punching, shoving, and other acts that hurt people physically
• Spreading bad rumors about people
• Keeping certain people out of a "group"
• Teasing people in a mean way
• Getting certain people to "gang up" on others

Cyber bully or bullying:

• Sending mean text, email, or instant messages
• Posting nasty pictures or messages about others in blogs or on Web sites
• Using someone else's user name to spread rumors or lies about someone.

This is something that has been happening for years.  Incidents as of late have brought it out into the light.  

Bullying does not distinguish between race and/or color.  It happens in all races in life.  Some get brought out in National /World spotlight.

For some it can go on for years.  I can testify to that in my life.  I had a hellish life when I was a kid.  No matter how many complaints were lodged with the school and the school board nothing happened.  Well....nothing happened to the bullies.  It all came back to me.  Tenfold.  Wasn't that great?

No. It wasn't. 

I wish there was Zero Tolerance and Intervention in place to help people like me when I was a child.  My school years were hell. Life at home with a dysfunctional bunch was no picnic, either.

If nothing else....I tell my kids not to pick on other kids.  If you wouldn't like it done to you....how do you think others feel about it?

When all the bullying went on you had a central person who would start the crap.  And the central person had a following that laughed and cheered the bullying.  So....of course it wasn't going to stop. The central person had  POWER.  They felt self-important.  They enjoyed it on some level.

How that central person could look into a mirror at themselves and think that they were a good person......I will never know.

But with that said....I hope and pray to God that they grew up and realized the errors of their ways.  And I certainly hope it didn't pass down to the next generation- their own children.  

While I would never hope for one of their own children to be the victim of a Bully in their lives....I wonder how they would react to it?  

• A) Would they want to "string up that central person and their buddies?" 
• B) Would they tease their child and tell them to "Suck it up, kid.  I *was* the bully when I was a kid!"??  
• C) Would they be so upset by the situation to want to sit that child down and tell them they were a bully as a child and tell their child that they didn't realize how much it hurt the other person they were bullying?  And tell their child that there is nothing wrong with him/her. Tell them they love their child.  They supported their child and would go to the school to discuss the problem.

I truly hope the option is C.  If that scenario were to happen.

I am who I am today because of all that happened as a child.  Good, bad and otherwise.  I am stronger now.

Thank YOU.

Bullying in all forms must stop.